“To look within oneself and to see what we truly need to make us happy, so many people think that they must have this person, or that person, or a child, or a house, a car etc.
“We are never content to just be. Us, ourselves, are never enough. We are always striving for something else all the time.
“Happiness really does start and end in us. Who are we? Are we happy with ourselves in our own skin/body?
“That contentment when practiced and believed, will bring to us a certain strength, a stabilization that we are content to be just who we are.
“Once we have achieved that, then we become a whole person, self sufficient in so many ways.
“There will be periods in everybody’s life when loneliness hits us and it is at this time that we are able to truly find out whom we are and how do we operate alone.
“Can we survive? Have we the means to manage on our own?
“It is at this time that a greater understanding of our strengths comes in. We begin to understand what we’re capable of doing and achieving.
“For many this becomes a very productive time and it allows us to grow into a more purposeful and accommodating person.
“We find we have to rely on ourselves. We have nobody else to rely on. When we are thirsty it is us alone who has to get that drink. We cannot ask anybody else as we are alone.
“So we start to manage ourselves in a better more organised way. We grow both in mental, emotional and physical strength. A pattern to our lives begins to form and slowly we begin to be content with a routine that we have made for ourselves.
“We start to feel more safe and loneliness is no longer a problem. We find we are able to cope far better than we first thought, so we begin to grow and evolve and this is our greatest time.
“Once we feel strong enough and experienced in coping, we are less frightened. We become strong and efficient in our own world.
“Then, should we require another person to come into our lives when we are ready, that happens and a partnership of love is evolved.
“This partnership is strong because we are strong and we can cope, because we have had to, so there is no pressure on this new relationship but mutual appreciation and support.
“Happiness, that we were able to find in ourselves in the right way, can then be transferred to another. As we give to ourselves, we are then ready to give to another and happiness continues both within and without.
“A new kind of evolution is born.”
Jenny Ayers
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