“When we require a friend in need, they are not often found. It is the unexpected people, who seem to come in from nowhere who tend to give the greatest support in times of most despair.
“These people whom are we have known for years, often are not available or tend to let us down. We don’t always know why, but it happens to be true.
“Those so called friends we have had for twenty years or more seem to be shy away when help is so much needed. Their perspective of understanding appears totally foreign to us.
“We thought they understood us and were on our same wavelength, when in fact they often appear as if strangers to us and they are no longer helpful and even resent being asked.
“It is important to see in people the value that they have in our lives and perhaps measure it to our own standards.
“We also have a responsibility to their needs. Did we let them down in some way in the past?
“If not, then our conscious is clear, so then we must look at the quality of their friendship and see whether it is still important in our lives or whether it is time to let them go.
“We all grow at different rates in our lives and how we once were as children we are no longer as adults, so we must make some allowances to how we are now.
“Are our friends the same? Are we the same? Who has actually moved on, evolved in their lives and who has not?
“We are all on different paths and our circumstances change and shape how we are and no two people can ever have the same set of circumstances and therefore their evolvement is different.
“No one is actually to blame, but a greater understanding of where we once were with our friends and how we see them now is what shapes our opinion of each other.
“It is that wisdom that nothing remains the same. We are all evolving at different rates of progress and sometimes we can move much faster than others.
“The more we experience in our lives, the greater the understanding of those who are in trouble and need our help. It is always the ones who have evolved the furthest that are the greatest help in our own times of need.
“This also can be said of ourselves, so do not be so disappointed when our long-term friends are not always there ready to rescue us.
“There will always be others who can do the job better and with the least amount of fuss. Learning really is a lifetime’s experience.”
Jenny Ayers
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